Alongside the Sash: Momentary

"“Pride, envy, avarice - these are the sparks have set on fire the hearts of all men.” - Dante Alighieri I think it would be safe to say that envy is the most difficult emotion to handle when supporting a partner through their title year. We’re barely over a month in and it’s already reared its head a few times. “He just got asked to another event, and this one’s happening next week. I want to go... I don’t get to go to another city’s Pride all of a sudden... I get to stay home and do laundry...that’s sexy...”"

By |July 24th, 2015|Opinion, People|0 Comments

Adventures in Black Leather: After our Victory, Our Struggle Continues

"It’s been 3 weeks since that email notification flashed across my iPhone’s screen. It still sits in my inbox, a daily reminder that elicits a tiny thrill as I am reminded again of the power of those words. I was in the middle of a conversation with a work colleague when I saw the alert. I broke off, mid-sentence, and rushed to my car. I wasn’t sure if I would scream, or shout, or dance, or cry. In the end, I sat in silence in my car for 30 minutes and let the joy wash over me."

By |July 21st, 2015|Opinion|0 Comments

Sarge IMsL 2015- Oklahoma Ms Leather Weekend Keynote

"Good afternoon Oklahoma! Where the wind comes sweeping down the plain, and the kinky fucks could use more chucks, when the floggers and whips wield pain. I’m a wedding photographer in my vanilla life, and I always hate when bridesmaids and groomsmen start their speech “For those of you that don’t know me..." Weren’t they just introduced before they stood up? But it’s like an ice breaker, right? Hi my name is Sarge and I’m a kinky leather woman. I’ve been kinky for 30 years. God, grant me the serenity…"

By |June 29th, 2015|Opinion, People|0 Comments

Suicide ~ My Story

"by Kody Nance Faggot…Queer…Homo…Cocksucker…Waste of life… To the majority of the guys in my high school they were just meaningless words that gave them a laugh. To me, however, these words felt like a knife being driven into my heart. This would lead me down a very dark path of self-loathing, disgust, anger and worst of all loneliness. After years of hearing the same taunts, I began to believe them….I was not worthy, I was a waste of life and that everyone would be better off without me."

By |June 26th, 2015|News, Opinion, People|0 Comments

My Story – A Decade Later

"I still can’t believe it’s been 10 years. A decade without her. My story is one seen from the other side - one that not many hear about - a survivor of someone who took her own life. I was in Guam and I had just graduated with my bachelor degree from the University of Florida a week prior and I was headed home the next day - August 15th. The week prior, my coworkers had helped me celebrate my graduation with a really cool lei of cocoa nuts ordained in the UF colors of Orange and Blue."

By |June 25th, 2015|News, Opinion, People|1 Comment

How to Help If You Know a Person is In Immediate Crisis

An Installment of Leatherati Suicide Series
By Deborah Hoffman-Wade in collaboration with Rover Spotts, Jorge Vieto, Jr., Ava Schmidt, and The San Francisco Bay Area Leather Alliance

After several suicides of people in the kink community the San Francisco Bay Areal Leather Alliance partnered with the Stop AIDS Project to provide education and resources. We printed posters […]

By |June 24th, 2015|News, Opinion, People|0 Comments

The Abyss

" by Loren Berthelsen People end their lives for a multitude of reasons. I want to share my experience with suicide and the reason I once chose that path. I grew up in a conservative and religious small town. A great place to live and raise a family but not exactly conducive to the whole gay thing. I spent much of my late teens vacillating between the gay and straight worlds, not comfortable in either and yearning to know what was "right" for me. Like a lot of kids dealing with sexual orientation issues I used drugs to cope "

By |June 23rd, 2015|News, Opinion, People|0 Comments

Every Thirteen Minutes…

" According to the CDC, in 2013, suicide was the 10th leading cause of death for Americans of all ages.1 A staggering 41,149 suicides were reported, roughly one almost every 13 minutes.2 The CDC sites suicide as the third leading cause of death for young people between the ages of 10 and 24.1 Suicide is the second cause of death among persons aged 25-34 years, the third cause of death among persons aged 15-24 years.2 Statistics are one thing, so much yadda yadda, but all the statistics in the world don’t matter when you are the one who is left to deal with the suicide attempt or suicide of another."

By |June 22nd, 2015|Community, Opinion, People|0 Comments

Introducing Ryan Garner Carpenter: Alongside the Sash

Editor's Note: Leatherati prides itself on introducing sides of Leather Culture not commonly seen or discussed. Part of my job is to find Leatherfolk who are willing to write about it. What's fun about this column is the fact that rarely do we see and read what its like to be a partner of a titleholder. Ryan Carpenter, the partner of IMrBB 20155 Bamm-Bamm is opening up to give his side of a journey that will last a year till the next glorious IML weekend. Enjoy! -Tyesha Best, Asst. Editor-in-Chief"

By |June 19th, 2015|Opinion, People|0 Comments

Ramien Pierre IML 2014-Step Aside Speech

"Growing up gay isn’t easy Growing up in leather is even harder We’ve come a long way But we have a lot further to go. Whether in leather or lace Whether in white collar or blue We need to talk to each other To try to understand each other To work together To strengthen the bonds we have already fashioned If we use our god-given gifts: Our intellects to know what is right Our wills to do what is right with compassion and love We better ourselves And the world around us. As International Mr. Leather I hope to bring all minorities together In the brotherhood we share"

By |May 29th, 2015|Opinion, People|0 Comments

Don’t Scare the Muggles

Harry Potter has forever altered our vocabulary. Before J.K Rowling introduced the fantasy game of Quidditch the word “snitch” was only used in gangster movies a derogatory term for a stoolie. If I have to define “stoolie” you were born after 1980 and so this whole thing might be a bit obscure.

My favorite word […]

By |May 27th, 2015|Community, Opinion|0 Comments

When Benign Disinterest of Gay Men Towards Women Isn’t A Bad Thing

"While clearly overshadowed by the aftermath of Puppy-gate, the question of women's participation at CLAW 15 had reached a high enough tide to justify the inclusion of a panel discussion on Saturday afternoon, with CLAW Board members and staff seeking feedback and input from attendees about women's participation...."

By |May 27th, 2015|Opinion, People|2 Comments