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Where are the Leather Woman?
by Serene
It seems with all the ease of coming out kinky these days that the traditional Leather Woman has somehow gone the way of the dinosaurs. However, when I look at the women in my community, I see smiling faces moaning with pleasure.
The landscape would look bleak with the absence of Leatherwomen in the bars. But what has transpired is an honest to goodness paradigm shift. The New Leather Woman has moved to her own digs. They have formed clubs and created their own kinky self-expression. Whereas, Leathermen may still socialize in a favorite bar, women have found different ways to meet their needs for kink expression.
Kinky Women Who Like Kinky Women is a Fetlife.com group that take their seduction strolls in social events and bath houses where they can be pampered and stroll in and out of hot tubs and saunas deliciously eyeing the selection before them.
“The goal of this group is to create a supportive, friendly space where we can openly express our views, questions, and opinions on bisexuality, sexuality, gender issues, etc., and how they relate to BDSM or "What It Is We Do", understanding that we all do it differently and that that's ok.”
It is a delicious feast to watch women in their mating dance. Women preening for each other is very hot. Clothed they may still look like your sister, mother or neighbor, but when they come together they get stimulated and get off.
Our groups are more diverse than ever before, we have found our kink and we gravitate to it. I won’t get into the debate of what woman has it best: the household slut, who is pleased to get her pleasure from use in a male Dominant household. Or the Domina with a bevy of slaves eager to be called to service her cunt or the Master with her boi attending an AA meeting.
She is open to new experiences, she delights in whatever kink or fetish that makes her feel beautiful, hot and horny. You’ll find the New Leather Woman taking up Belly Dancing for her own pleasure, expressing her sexuality with hips undulating as a siren call for pleasure.
Each woman has found a way of taking care of her needs, as a Leather Women should. And today she finds a myriad of choices. My Corset Tea Salon is for women who find pleasure in sensual dressing and being in beautiful surroundings. It is the purposed sensuality of beauty that makes me wet.
The New Leather Woman can enjoy the decadence of an afternoon high tea and shopping for erotic art. Or the sensual drumming that comes when women let their hair down at a Sensual Dance Party, where Belly, Pole, Fire Poi and Burlesque dancers entertain for seduction. And the pride we find when we gather our intellectuals on Leather Women Panels to celebrate who we are and how far we’ve come.
The title-holder role for women was birthed not out of a need to celebrate the bar patrons, but an invitation to women to step up to the bar. Duff Roberts, producer of the Southern California Leather Woman has charged her titleholders to bring the women’s community together in unique ways.
Domme Scouts have sprung up to fill a learning gap in the women’s community. The original Troop 69 back east and in Los Angeles Troop 96, where new Dominas come to learn their kink together, taking on the challenges of earning their badges and sashes in a group setting. Submissives of both sexes are invited to take up learning as Brownies.
Female Domme Play Parties are the vision driving one Domina to gather women and men every Friday night of the month throughout Southern California. Princess has organized thriving parties where every Friday night you know a Fem Dom will be in charge.
And the professional Domina who takes the time to care for the married or closeted submissive has brought a tradition to the lifestyle that has not been lost on this observer. The Pro Domme takes her career seriously, continuously developing her professional skills, managing her family and her lifestyle play, existing as the both the fantasy and memory maker on a daily basis. Without her important contribution as Mistress Hikari of The Dominion says “ we are curbing anarchy and arrogance, by offering a safe private means for licentiousness, while restraining impropriety, debauchery and disorder.”
Thank a Pro Domme anytime a judge, cop or other male in authority goes easy on you. She has helped him maintain his balance in the vanilla world.
The promoters of our lives and history have not been forgotten. TSR Networks, host three weekly shows all hosted by New Leather Women. Rev Mel hosts the original Monday night Internet show with a goal of “Changing the world one Vanilla at a time.” And community groups like LADs, Ms. San Diego Leather, and LAFEDS continue to nurture and welcome women into the lifestyle.
We have found ways of expressing our kinky lives beyond the leather bar or dungeon. Our lust for play is stronger than ever, and like water we will find our own level and take our own pleasure. Women still crave the company of those who get us and we will always seek our own way, eventually.
Serene is the 2010 Southern California Leather Woman and a classically trained Domina active in the BDSM lifestyle all her adult life. She is a humorous speaker and teacher speaking across the country. She has organized Female Dominant events, guest lecturer in Psychiatric Nursing and Human Sexuality college courses and mentored dominants and submissives across all identities.
She is published Author, Blogger, Presenter and Sensual Sadist. She writes to share about the Top’s perspective of play, politics, titleholding and her exceptional opportunities of play on her blog at http://sinlikeyoumeanit.blogspot.com. Private Coaching and Teaching: www.serenesin.com.
"...to me good BDSM is the beautiful mix of pleasure and pain that makes for the ultimate orgasmic experience." - Serene, Southern California Leather Woman 2010
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