Roger presented a seminar with lots of B & T but no C & T
I like his philosophy about ball torture - "If it doesn't get you off, then there's no there there."
Roger's theory is that most bottoms are looking to have their limits stretched and most tops are afraid of not being perfect so they end up being service tops who only provide the minimum necessary for any given scene. Perfectly competent but not edge of your seat hot.
His advice is that you can avoid this by being candid with each other up front so everyone gets exactly what they want. Are you a merciless sadist? Serious masochist scenes are just your jumping off point? Open your mouth and get the word out and let the games begin.
Roger does more than play with balls, he also makes CBT videos where he specializes in taking guys to orgasm brink and then beyond to places they might not have though they could (or wanted to!) go.
Hi methodology to get a guy in the right space is to first tell them not to shoot for a week so they arrive at this door totally wound up. He wants them aroused and on the edge and then likes to play sexually with them during the scene. He's bored by the suggestion that this is straight BDSM and not sexual. He wants to involve the whole range of equipment. He does caution though that you've gotta draw it out and suggests careful application of sensation on the cock by playing with the base of the dick rather than the head so you can draw out the experience and not, ahem, have an early arrival.
Roger gave us a tour of some of his techniques for stretching limits and heightening the experience. He really believes that proper breathing is essential. Have your sub breath in and out completely, emptying the lungs with each slow and deep breath. This really opens the door to endorphins.
Another must do is to apply force equally in both balls or the bottom will fall out of the enjoyment of the sensation. If one ball starts to take more abuse than the other the pain becomes intrusive and lowers the threshold considerably.
Another key technique is to keep the rhythm steady and increase the intensity of the striking but not to vary the pace. This will help the sub to relax and not tense up. And speaking of tensing up, the naturual reaction when someone is going to get hit in the balls is to tense up the abdomen and pull the pelvis back. You've gotta break the bottom of this early on in order to keep the scene going. It's counterintuitive but doable to train a guy to follow this and the payoff is huge.
Roger advises that you don't hit and snap your hand back because all that's going to do is make the scrotum sting. What you really want to do is follow through with the strike so the balls actually stop the motion of the hand.
Since you want to involve the cock and balls to create really good feelings, it's always good to hit so that you connect with both the balls and part of the cock so the sensation is spread evenly. It makes a nice, building sensation that takes everything to a new level.
That was enough theoretical for us and the rest of the seminar we got to go hands on. And, well, it's impossible to type and torture at the same time so I've gotta choose.
Later!
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