by Tyesha Best
boy Richard, Thy Name is Integrity
boy Richard has a truly infectious smile that matches perfectly the vivid energy he exudes when he talks about his about his life, his goals and definitely his love of sex. As International Deaf Leatherboy 2012 he wants to make a big splash in both the Hearing and Deaf Leather communities and he has a lot he wants to say and do.
A New York native, he left at age 19 and following a stint in the Army stationed first in Savannah, Georgia and then Germany. He eventually made his home to Savannah Georgia, where has lived for the past 30 years. boy Richard lost his hearing in 1998 and benefits best from his right hearing aid as his left ear does not get any benefit from a hearing aid.
boy Richard wants the GLBT and Leather Communities to talk more about Domestic Violence at a National Level, “Many think that because we are into Leather (and often S&M) that Domestic Violence does not exist. There is a difference in the two though one is for pleasure and the other is done with malice. We as a community need to bring out of the shadows and start addressing it.”
He talks about some of the signs of abusive relationships: Isolation from friends and family, escalated anger towards physical violence, poorly explained injuries and severe mood swings from your partner to name a few. He is not afraid to talk openly about his past in hopes that it will strengthen others to come out and speak as well about their experiences. He exlplains, “My ex would yell at me at first and then it escalated to hitting, destroying low hanging ceiling fans with his fist, throwing furniture, throwing a furniture through a plate glass window…. when I would say I was leaving, he would first tell me that I would never find anyone and be all alone and then get apologetic.”